Oppo, I'm afraid and anxious.

"sefeing, actually bought an E46" (sefeing90)
03/16/2020 at 20:43 • Filed to: e46, BMW, covid-19, coronavirus

But before I get into that, a positive. I took last (LAST) weekend and put new motor and trans mounts on the e46. She’s smoother than ever and a lot of the noise has been toned down. Even the suspension feels more put together. It’s incredible. The old engine mounts were probably almost 1 inch shorter than the new, and the trans significantly as well.

I still need to do the rear diff bearing, but that’s later in the year. Photo b/c she (well he, Jerry) looks good. Then onto my fears (below the fold)

Now, onto what’s giving me anxiety.

We’re supposed to get married May 31st. That alone should give you an idea of what’s irking me. The tri-state area just put a ban on gatherings of over 50, and our venue is in New Haven, CT - in a state park, no less.

I’m worried, and have a bad feeling that the date we’ve been planning for heavily for a year is going to get killed / we’re going to have to postpone a year.

I understand the ramifications of going through with it, if this nightmare hasn’t slowed down, but that doesn’t mean postponing your wedding isn’t near soul-crushing.

To be honest, this is just a vent for me. Working from home is hard for me, and that’s whats happening for the foreseeable future. We live in a 700sq/ft NYC (Queens) apartment, and cabin fever is real. We’re considering escaping to one of her family’s places in PA to isolate and get away, because my parents are also in Queens, so that doesn’t help much. Plus they’re older and I don’t want to give them anything.

This is gonna be a tough few months oppo. Let’s all try and hold it together. <3

DISCUSSION (21)

OPPOsaurus WRX > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:08

if we are still in this mess at the end of May, I have a feeling the wedding with be sooooo low on your list. I’m thinking (hoping) things will be better. When I was stocking up on beer the girl in front of me was on the phone with her mother who was demanding she cancel her wedding. We were supposed to go to Disney in April......

sony1492 > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:13

This is pretty high up there on reasons to cancel, there isnt any shame in it

ttyymmnn > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:20

Get married as planned, just the two of you and a priest/rabbi/imam/judge/ship captain or whatever, then throw a big ass party on your first anniversary with all the people who couldn’t come this year.

SilentButNotReallyDeadly...killed by G/O Media > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:26

Me and M'lady thought about doing that marriage thing a while back...maybe 15 years ago. We've clearly come to the conclusion that there's very little in life that can't be put off for even the most insubstantial reason...

someassemblyrequired > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:26

If you need the benefits or something like that, just go to the courthouse and then do a proper show when things calm down. It happens all the time, and I’ve seen numerous freinds/family members do it for one reason or another. You can probably let it ride for a bit, but people will definitely understand if you need to cancel.

Rusty Vandura - www.tinyurl.com/keepoppo > ttyymmnn
03/16/2020 at 21:40

Exactly the counsel I was going to give.

Rusty Vandura - www.tinyurl.com/keepoppo > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 21:41

What Ttyymmnn said, only in bold and all caps.

Chariotoflove > ttyymmnn
03/16/2020 at 22:04

And remember all of us in the guess list.

DipodomysDeserti > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 22:16

I’m a recently ordained minister in the Church of Latterday Dudes, specializing in secluded desert weddings, if you want to drive out to Arizona. My wife is a professional photographer as well.

shop-teacher > ttyymmnn
03/16/2020 at 22:24

I agree with this plan. Maybe invite the few of the very closest friends and family to join. Just save the big party for later.

ttyymmnn > shop-teacher
03/16/2020 at 22:27

Anybody who might be flying could also save their tickets for next year.

shop-teacher > ttyymmnn
03/16/2020 at 22:34

Yep.

HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/16/2020 at 22:50

If I were you’d I’d skip the ceremony and go to the courthouse. Maybe have a big first year anniversary party when this blows over.

I however fully understand that for a lot of people that simply isn’t an option.

HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles > ttyymmnn
03/16/2020 at 22:51

Hey that’s what I said! Nice

ttyymmnn > HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles
03/16/2020 at 22:54

Great minds....

sefeing, actually bought an E46 > HFV has no HFV. But somehow has 2 motorcycles
03/17/2020 at 06:59

It’s a consideration, but who knows what city agencies will even be open then. (We live in NYC)

sefeing, actually bought an E46 > DipodomysDeserti
03/17/2020 at 07:00

Secluded desert weddings are the best :)

Appreciate the officer, we’re over in NYC, so not a huge option unfortunately

sefeing, actually bought an E46 > someassemblyrequired
03/17/2020 at 07:01

Yeah, I know they’ll understand, it’s just disappointing, ya know? Take a year to really plan something only to have it shut down by something far out of your control.

sefeing, actually bought an E46 > ttyymmnn
03/17/2020 at 07:03

I do like this idea - it’ll all be pending whether or not NYC is still functioning by then, But it’s a solid piece of advice. I appreciate it

sefeing, actually bought an E46 > OPPOsaurus WRX
03/17/2020 at 07:03

ttyymmnn > sefeing, actually bought an E46
03/17/2020 at 08:42

Good! I’m glad I could help. Congratulations to you both, and best wishes for a long and happy life together!